I found this article interesting considering my struggle with eating disorders and sucidal thoughts took me decades to understand the root cause. I’m sharing this article about Dr’s who are leaving psychiatry because they are burned out because you need a Dr who will be with you for the long haul! As much as I understand these statistics, I happen to have been a direct result of being shuffled to multiple Drs because of Dr’s being on overload. My Dr’s who helped me were amazing and were a direct result of my workbook and recovery. DO NOT BECOME A STATIATIC FROM DRS BEING ON OVERLOAD! Please find a Dr dedicated to helping you help yourself! ❤️🙏
Monday, July 21, 2025
What does success mean to you?
Warren Buffett Says the Biggest Measure for Your Success in Life Comes Down to 1 Word❤️LOVE
At the end of your life, only one thing will truly matter, according to Warren Buffett.
Warren Buffett isn’t just one of the greatest investors of our time—he’s also a master at delivering timeless truths. And perhaps his most underrated insight has nothing to do with markets or investing, and everything to do with the human heart.
“If you get to my age in life and nobody thinks well of you, I don’t care how big your bank account is, your life is a disaster.”
That’s what Buffett told students at Georgia Tech years back when they asked how he defines success. But there’s more. Here’s what might be one of the most important lessons for leaders today.
Buffett’s Measure for Success: Love❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
In his biography, The Snowball: Warren Buffett and the Business of Life, Buffett expands on that earlier quote with soul-level honesty. Here are some excerpts:
“Basically, when you get to my age, you’ll really measure your success in life by how many of the people you want to have love you actually do love you.
“I know many people who have a lot of money, and they get testimonial dinners, and they get hospital wings named after them. But the truth is that nobody in the world loves them. That’s the ultimate test of how you've lived your life: the only way to get love is to be lovable. The more you give love away, the more you get.”
Whoa. That bit of truth-telling hits differently. We’ve been sold the idea that success is about getting ahead, climbing faster, earning more, standing out. But this me-first culture is exhausting. It isolates us. Over time, it makes us less successful in the things that truly matter—such as trust, respect, loyalty, and meaningful impact.
The best leaders and change makers I’ve researched, coached, and written about don’t look out for No. 1. They look out for others. They serve, empower, coach, mentor, and help others grow into the best versions of themselves. That’s their measure of success.
Ultimately, the legacy we leave isn’t built on how well we took care of ourselves. It’s built on how well we took care of each other.
So, Buffett’s ultimate test of success? Not wealth. It’s whether people who matter to you feel seen, valued, and loved by you—and whether you’ve made enough of a positive impact for them to love you back.
This idea feels more relevant now than ever. Look around: divisiveness, suspicion, fear, hatred, wars, violence. Closer to the workspace, remote work has created a sense of distance. Employee loyalty is at historic lows. Burnout is widespread. Buffett’s message cuts through all of that: Your legacy as a leader—whatever your level in the org chart—won’t be the company, department, or team you built. It’ll be how you treated people along the way.
How to Lead with Love (and Still Win)
So how do we live out this principle—” the more love you give away, the more you get back”—in today’s high-pressure, results-driven world?
Here are four practical, sometimes counterintuitive, ways to build a life and career rooted in Buffett’s version of success, which you’ll find in Humane Leadership by reading: Lead with Radical Love, Be a Kick-Ass Boss.
1. Lead Selflessly: Expect Nothing in Return
The best leaders give first. They lift others without keeping score. They coach, develop, and support—even when there’s no obvious ROI. And it works. Research on servant leadership shows that selfless leaders build more committed, loyal, and productive teams. Why? Because people remember how you made them feel—valued, empowered, safe. That’s the love Buffett’s talking about. And it doesn’t cost a dime.
2. Create a Culture Where Love Isn’t Soft, It’s Strategic
Buffett once said:
“I love every day. I mean, I tap dance in here and work with nothing but people I like….”
This isn’t fluffy. Loving your work and your team is a business advantage. However, this is a crucial starting point that many companies overlook.
Companies that build uplifting, values-driven cultures outperform those that don’t. Why? Because practical, actionable love and care demonstrated through shared values at work will manifest in greater trust, energy, collaboration, community, and joy. That stuff scales!
3. Upgrade From the Golden Rule to the Platinum Rule
The Golden Rule says: “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”
The Platinum Rule flips it: “Treat others the way they want to be treated.”
The difference is emotional intelligence. It’s love with empathy. It requires curiosity, humility, and the willingness to adapt your style to meet someone else’s needs. Whether you’re giving feedback, supporting a struggling employee, or building trust across a team, it’s this mindset that separates average leaders from compassionate ones.
4. Do What You Love—Then Help Others Do the Same
Let’s give Buffett the final word:
“In the world of business, the people who are most successful are those who are doing what they love.”
The message here isn’t just to chase passion blindly. It’s about aligning your work with what energizes you, and helping others do the same. Great leaders help people do work that matters to them, not just to the company.
If you don’t know what you love yet, make it a priority to discover that. Because the energy you bring to your work is contagious. And when people see that spark in you, they’ll follow.
Final Thought
Success is about being remembered for how you made people feel, for the love you gave away, and for the lives you changed.
In Buffett’s words, it’s simple: “The more you give love away, the more you get.”
In leadership—and in life—that’s the only metric that really matters.
Friday, July 18, 2025
Ketamine Therapy
If you are struggling with PTSD and depression please watch this video. There is hope! I struggled for over forty years with eating disorders, depression, and suicidal ideation.
After meeting with a naturalpathic Dr, I decided to experiment with Spravato and Ketamine therapy. Since making this decision I have been able to conclude multiple medications I was taking were making my symptoms of depression and suicidal thoughts worse.
Listen to your body! Believe in yourself! There is a way out from feeling trapped behind the mask of depression and addiction! You are one decision away from making peace with your mind and body so you can enjoy your future!
I will share my journey in my workbook The Road Less Travelled/ Are you ok? A self discovery workbook! How I freed myself from eating disorders, addiction, and suicidal ideation this fall.
Friday, July 4, 2025
Are you feeding your fears or your future?
Don’t let your distractions pull you away from accomplishing your purpose!
Sunday, June 22, 2025
Pieces of me…my journey to overcoming amorexia, bulimia, addiction and suicidal ideation.
Recovery is not easy but, it’s worth it!
Coming soon: my workbook called
The Road Less Traveled “Are you ok?”
How to overcome eating disorders, addiction, and suicidal ideation.
If there is a will…God willing there is a way back home as you discuss who you were meant to be!!
God is good always!
Tuesday, June 17, 2025
Friday, October 4, 2024
Tuesday, April 28, 2020
A Prayer
May I still remember the bright hours that found me walking over the silent hills of my childhood, or dreaming on the margin of a quiet river, when a light glowed within me, and I promised my early God to have courage amid the tempests of the changing years.
Spare me from bitterness and from the sharp passions of unguarded moments. May I not forget that poverty and riches are of the spirit.
Though the world knows me not, may my thoughts and actions be such as shall keep me friendly with myself.
Lift up my eyes from the earth, and let me not forget the uses of the stars. Forbid that I should judge others lest I condemn myself.
Let me not follow the clamor of the world, but walk calmly in my path.
Give me a few friends who will love me for what I am; and keep ever burning before my vagrant steps the kindly light of hope.
And though age and infirmity overtake me, and I come not within sight of the castle of my dreams, teach me still to be thankful for life, and for time's olden memories that are good and sweet; and may the evening's twilight find me gentle still.”
American Writer
Max Ehramn
1872-1945
Monday, April 27, 2020
NUTRITION CARE ACT
NEDA (National Eating Disorder Association) VIRTUAL WALK 2020
Thank you Congresswoman Jackie Walorski for all your efforts in introducing the Nutrition Care Act. This will allow for Outpatient Care Counseling and MEDICAID coverage to those in need.
https://youtu.be/Ib_gdXNTmIs
Thank you Congresswoman Jackie Walorski for all your efforts in introducing the Nutrition Care Act. This will allow for Outpatient Care Counseling and MEDICAID coverage to those in need.
https://youtu.be/Ib_gdXNTmIs
Saturday, April 18, 2020
COVID 19...Why do we need to be inspired by “great movies”?
During this time of isolation, I had the opportunity to write a brief explanation about what makes a film a good film. Why do we continue to go back to theaters over and over again? What is it we are looking for that movies give us one can’t find in another form of art? Below is an article I briefly explain my perspective. Let’s all get healthy and back to making amazing impactful movies very soon!
https://creativescreenwriting.com/why-casablanca-is-considered-one-of-the-best-films-of-all-time/
https://creativescreenwriting.com/why-casablanca-is-considered-one-of-the-best-films-of-all-time/
Tuesday, March 24, 2020
Tips for Families
The following information can be found in my mental health work book for eating disorders coming out this year!!!
Friday, March 13, 2020
Thursday, March 5, 2020
Wednesday, February 12, 2020
Saturday, November 9, 2019
Are you happy?
Today I ask that while you watch this movie...that you find new ways to fill your heart by paying it forward to opening your heart to others in need. I promise you it is a very healing experience.
Enjoy the movie!! 🎥 🍿
#ACTRESS
#PRODUCER
#WRITER
#BLOGGER
STAY TUNED FOR MY MENTAL HEALTH WORKBOOK FOR EATING DISORDERS COMING OUT IN 2020!
Monday, October 21, 2019
YOUR THOUGHTS ARE KILLING YOU!!
As an artist and author I am hyper aware of my emotional state at all times. However, this wasn’t always the case. After thirty years of struggling with anorexia, bulimia and nighttime eating disorder I decided to take control over my life. I will admit...every single day is a challenge.
One of many things I’ve learned over the years, is we have a choice to expose ourselves to things that will fuel our addiction or learn to create boundaries as we choose life over death! However, often times the individual struggling with the addiction is so far gone they can’t see they have a choice.
I’ve always said and truly believe this... We have three roads to travel in life. We can choose to travel the road of which we feel is best for us on our journey through recovery, or we can allow satan to speak on our behalf. But, I am certain by choosing the road to god you will find more then you ever imagined was possible!”
If you know someone struggling and fears what recovery might look like on the other side please have them read this book. This book is just one of the hundreds of books I’ve read over the course of my recovery that has had lasting impact in my life. But, remember addicts often can see the depth of the hole they are in until it’s too late. Reach out to them before it’s too late!!!
Enjoy the book!
Cheers😇
Keep smiling...
Stay tuned for my book series coming out in 2020...🙏
One of many things I’ve learned over the years, is we have a choice to expose ourselves to things that will fuel our addiction or learn to create boundaries as we choose life over death! However, often times the individual struggling with the addiction is so far gone they can’t see they have a choice.
I’ve always said and truly believe this... We have three roads to travel in life. We can choose to travel the road of which we feel is best for us on our journey through recovery, or we can allow satan to speak on our behalf. But, I am certain by choosing the road to god you will find more then you ever imagined was possible!”
If you know someone struggling and fears what recovery might look like on the other side please have them read this book. This book is just one of the hundreds of books I’ve read over the course of my recovery that has had lasting impact in my life. But, remember addicts often can see the depth of the hole they are in until it’s too late. Reach out to them before it’s too late!!!
Enjoy the book!
Cheers😇
Keep smiling...
Stay tuned for my book series coming out in 2020...🙏
Saturday, October 12, 2019
MENTAL HEALTH WORKBOOK QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS FOR EATING DISORDERS AND ADDICTION COMING OUT IN 2020
Do you know someone struggling with an eating disorder or addiction?
Do you have questions and wish you had the answers to them?
My book series Misunderstood will help assist you and your family as you seek to better understand the mental mindset behind the mask of your loved ones addiction.
I struggled for thirty years with eating disorders and addiction.
My family struggled for over a century.
Why wait for treatment when you can start the journey now?
Coming out in 2024 MISUNDERSTOOD!
Do you have questions and wish you had the answers to them?
My book series Misunderstood will help assist you and your family as you seek to better understand the mental mindset behind the mask of your loved ones addiction.
I struggled for thirty years with eating disorders and addiction.
My family struggled for over a century.
Why wait for treatment when you can start the journey now?
Coming out in 2024 MISUNDERSTOOD!
Tuesday, October 1, 2019
Friday, September 27, 2019
Fall 2019
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The Tangled Web of
Eating Disorders and
Substance Use Disorder
Dr. Ebrahimi presented at the Cape Cod Symposium on Addictive Disorders (CCSAD)
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The co-occurrence of eating disorders (EDs) and substance use disorder (SUDs) is high. 50 percent of individuals with an eating disorder will abuse alcohol or an illicit substance compared with 9 percent of those in the general population. 35 percent of alcohol or illicit substance abusers have an eating disorder while the prevalence in the general population for eating disorders is 3 percent.
Individuals who have an eating disorder and abuse drugs and alcohol experience higher levels of eating disorder symptoms, poorer outcomes, higher relapse rates, increased medical complications, increased psychopathology,
Given these statistics, the importance of screening for both disorders, when someone presents for treatment with either one, cannot be overstated. Unfortunately, treatment centers need to up their game in this area. A National Treatment Center Study found that of 351 publicly funded SUD programs only 16 percent offered treatment for co-occurring eating disorders and only half screened for eating disorders in their patient assessment. Only 3 percent of SUD treatment centers in this study had a formal arrangement with an ED treatment center or provider.
How can substance abuse disorder treatment clinicians and admission staff do a better job of screening for eating disorders in their potential patients? First, they should learn more about the signs and symptoms of eating disorders and their effects on individuals with substance abuse disorder. This will help them better screen for eating disorders in clients.
Fortunately, there are several tools available to help screen clients for an eating disorder. One such tool is the SCOFF Questionnaire, which is a basic five-question assessment tool that is in the toolbox of most eating disorder clinicians. Answering "yes" to two or more of the questions warrants further questioning and more in-depth assessment. SCOFF corresponds with first letter of the following five words in the questions: Do you make yourself sickbecause you feel uncomfortably full? Do you worry you have lost control over what you eat? Have you recently lost more than one stone (14 lbs.) over a three-month period? Do you believe yourself to be fat when others say you are thin? Would you say food dominates your life?
Just a few basic questions can make the difference between setting someone up for failure or success. Those in the treatment of either eating disorders or substance abuse disorders should consider cross training on these highly correlative disorders to insure that each client is receiving the right treatment at the right time.
For more information about the Cambridge Center for Eating Disorders visit the links below.
http://www.eatingdisordercenter.org/
info@cedcmail.com617-547-2255 |
Wednesday, September 25, 2019
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